Top 10 Reasons Why Women Prefer Dating And Marrying Older Men


The complexity of the woman psychology can never be overemphasized and this could be linked to some of their preferences which may be perceived as obscure or strange. One of such preferences include their choice of partners in relation to age difference. It has been discovered over time that in as much as women love and admire young, cute guys, they greatly prefer the older ones. And although dating young guys could be fun and exciting, ladies still prefer sticking to the older ones more than their age mates. Let’s take a look at some of the important reasons why women chose older men as partners instead of the young ones:

1. Older men are More Established and Settled

Every woman wants a man who can properly take care of her and also assure her of a secure future. Men who are way older have already passed the fundamental stages of life in almost all aspects, starting from their career, financial stand and so on. No lady would love to stick to a twenty-something guy who is still trying to find his feet and still living with room mates. An older man on most cases has a good apartment to himself or better still, his own house. They’ve already gotten a stable career and  consequently have financial security which is one of the most important things ladies desire in their partners.

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2. Older Men are More Experienced and Intelligent

There is a popular saying that with age comes great wisdom. Men who are older have gone through lots of life experiences which have thought them quality lifetime lessons. Some of them have also had good education and are well learned. This is reflected in their conversations which is usually fun and full of lessons. Anytime you hang around them, there’s always something new to learn.

More importantly, older men are more experienced in relationship and sex. They have had the opportunity to come across and date several ladies and this gives them the ability to handle subsequent relationships better. They are also known to be very awesome in bed because their load of experiences give them confidence and make them more original which is the bane of genuine sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

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3. Older Men Communicate Better

As mentioned earlier, older men are always more intelligent and therefore are able to hold very interesting and inspiring conversations. They also do not mince words when speaking. They are just genuine. They know what they want and never hesitate to say it and stand on it. They’ve outgrown the age of seeking to impress their partner through pretense and childish bragging.

Older men are also good listeners, which is a great quality of a good communicator. Women love it so much when their man pays attention to them, even when they are talking trash! Older men are very good at this. They take it cool and calm and are never in a hurry to pour out their own opinion. This doesn’t mean they’ll accept an idea they didn’t buy but they have the ability to make themselves clear without causing any chaos.

4. They are more Mature and Better Mannered

According to a study, girls mature 10 years earlier than men. So don’t be surprised if she left you for an older man because that guy probably thinks and acts in a way that pleases her. Older men have certainly gotten to the point where they exhibit more stability than the young dudes. They are known to be very mature and knows how best to treat women. They exhibit better emotional and temperamental stability. They are more patient and tolerable. Since women are folks who need a lot of these, they are more attracted to men who have them.

Older men are also more respectful, courteous and have not lost the most cherished standard old school manners. He opens and holds the car door for her, pulls out her sit for her when they go out for a date, and doesn’t make jokes that hurt her feelings. He won’t force her to hang out with people she doesn’t like. Instead, he invites her to go somewhere interesting.

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4. Older Men Accept and Appreciate You

They are not always bent on changing you. For the young guys, they usually want almost everything changed – your fashion style, your daily routine, and all what not. But for the older men, they know more than that and have come to realize that true love is all about originality and not superfluity; acceptance and not change. An older man appreciates his woman and would only want her to get better rather than trying to change her.

5. With an Older guy, there is little or no competition

Almost every lady is afraid of sharing her man with other women or rather running the risk of losing him to another woman. If you are dating an older man, the probability of such occurrences are almost at the zero level. This is because the man is emotionally stable and already knows what he wants and has gotten it. He doesn’t have the time to start seeking attention or noticing undue advances from ladies other than his own woman. Another good thing about older men in this aspect is that they are cool and homely. They would prefer to have a good meal in their own homes instead of hanging out in a cosy restaurant from time to time. This will go a long way to shield temptations.


6. Older Men are More Committed – No more Games!

The support, security and protection provided by older men can in no way be compared to the ones to be likely provided by a young guy. Most of the time, ladies dating younger guys stand the risk of infidelity and betrayal. Older men has seen a lot of life and are no longer interested in playing games and scoring goals. They are more likely to ask for marriage and settle down for life with you, which is of course every woman’s heart desire.

Ladies have confessed being more secured and assured when going out with an older man than with a young man. This is because older men are warm, caring and supportive. They have the ability to read and understand your feelings more, protect your interests and hurt you less.


7. Older Men have More Time – They are no Internet Freaks

Young guys of this present age of ICT could be horrible in relationships. Some of them are so addicted to the internet, mobile and computer applications to the extent they would’t mind communicating with their girlfriend or wife who is next to them on the same sofa via internet chat. Some are social media freaks, music freaks, game freaks, and so on, that they would scarcely have the time to look their woman in the face and give her sufficient attention. Women dread this and that’s why they go for the old dudes who’s always ready to adore them and give them all the attention they need. Sure no lady would love to experience what you’re seeing above.

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9. Older Men Command Respect – They Are Real Men!

Ultimately, every girl wants a man. It takes a lot including an accumulation of all the things on this list to make a real man. It is not to say that younger guys are not men, but there can be significant differences in the maturity level of a young guy versus an older guy; unless this younger guy is in rare form and manages to handle himself in such a way that knocks a willing girl off of her feet.

Older men ooze confidence and command respect, which is what every lady wants. This ranges from the way they dress, the way they speak, their carriage, their caring and supportive demeanor, and everything about them altogether.

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10. The Older Look is Unique and Attractive too

Generally, the looks of an older guy is attractive in its own magnetic way! The hair and beards spotted with grey hair, the mild age creases and other things could be inviting. They actually represent all the things mentioned here at a glance – maturity, wisdom, stability, experience, commitment, etc.

Are there other things you know about older men in relationships?  Please do share your opinions and experiences at the comment session below.