We usually come across a lot of interesting people we might wish to start up relationships of any kind with.
Experts say being likable or successful in business is all about building relationships and trust.
If you are in business, the more quickly you can build positive relationships with potential customers, and with the people who work with and for you, the more successful you will be.
They also believe body language is the key for building the kind of rapport and trust that sparks relationships. According to them, ‘Everyone has needs, doubts, and insecurities,’ and the process of establishing a connection with another person to gain trust centers on showing respect as you address his or her needs, doubts, and insecurities.
Best Habits To Spark Relationships
Therefore, experts have described 10 powerful rapport-building habits which include:
1. Smile with Your Eyes
It will surprise you how much a simple genuine smile (which also reflects in your eyes) can achieve. As scientists would say, it releases neurotransmitters like endorphins, dopamine and mood-enhancing serotonin that makes people feel good.
So giving a genuine smile (with your eyes) to someone you’ve just met can quickly brighten his/her day and build a positive relationship.
2. Use Flatter and Praise
People love it when they’re complimented on something, it’s a fact that when you praise someone, you energize them, making them feel good about themselves — and around you. But don’t overdo it because people know when they are being buttered up.
3. Share Something about Yourself
Sharing somethings about you makes it easier for someone you’ve just met to open up to you as well which also makes the conversation more diverse leading to a positive relationship.
4. Use Touch Carefully
Keeping in mind that some cultures don’t consider touching appropriate, a brief and gentle touch on the arm during an interaction suggests warmth and a physical reminder of the relationship that you are building with the other person. Be careful not to overdo it.
5. Mirror the other Person
By mirroring the other person’s actions such as body position that is similar, you quickly build rapport. Researchers has shown that people like other people whom they think are like them. Watch it though so as not to over do it.
6. Treat People with Respect
Like the saying goes, “Treat people as you would want them to treat you.” Just like you, people want to be treated with respect.
7. Be a Great Listener
This is the part where you keep that smartphone aside and be an active listener and research has shown that nothing ticks people’s interest in a conversation off like phone interruptions.
Do not forget the body language which projects interest in the person by leaning in to the conversation, and nodding your head occasionally in understanding and agreement.
8. Curtail your Ego
When conversing with someone you just met, it’s important to keep in mind that it should be all about the person and not you. Show interest in what someone else is saying to you, and allow them to educate you even if you know it all.
That way, you make them feel confident and comfortable enough to spark relationships with them.
9. Get the Subjects Rolling
To get the conversation rolling, you need to ask questions that require the other person to provide a long and detailed response, not questions that can be answered with a simple “Yes” or “No.”
You can also invite the person to join you for something you both can enjoy together like dinner or an out-door invent. This will strengthen the bond between you.